How to hold a memorial
- What’s the first step if I would like a memorial service at ALC?
The first step would be contact the church at 623-974-2512 or email us at firstname.lastname@example.org. Our Operations Coordinator will record some initial information including your name, phone number, the name of the deceased, their date of birth and date of death. Then one of our pastors will call you to set up a time to meet with you in person.
- What does a memorial service look like at ALC?
A Memorial service at ALC typically follows the order of worship for funerals from the Evangelical Lutheran Worship hymnal which includes scripture, prayers, hymns, and a homily. In consultation with the pastor and music director, you may select the scripture readings and hymns – a list is available to help guide you. Holy Communion may also be requested. Other details such as family remembrances, and burial or inurnment arrangements may also be planned with our pastor.
- Do we need to have eulogies?
No, you can request to have that time removed from the memorial service. Typically, in consultation between the pastor and family, two to three people are preselected to share memories of the deceased. We do not have an “open” time for people to come forward. We understand that there are people who would like to share a few words and encourage them to do so during the luncheon.
- What happens after a memorial service?
It depends. Sometimes there is a processional to a cemetery for a burial or inurnment. If a casket is present, the funeral home will make the arrangements. Other times, if a person has a niche at ALC’s columbarium, we will walk outside and then have the inurnment. On some occasions, the family will keep the deceased’s ashes or take them out of state to be buried.
- Can I request to have luncheon or dinner?
Following the service, you may request to have a reception or luncheon. We know this is a difficult day for everyone and it is important that everyone stay nourished. When we grieve the death of a loved one we forget to take care of ourselves, which includes eating. ALC has an incredible caterer and women’s group who can provide anything from cookies and punch to a full dinner. The pastor will provide you with their contact information.